(Originally published in the Bargain Hunter on August 2, 2013)
An old classmate of mine posted on Facebook the eulogy he
and his brothers and sisters wrote for their mother’s funeral.
It was a great piece of writing, delivered I believe by the
oldest of the 10 siblings – yes, that’s right, 10 – and it contained some wonderful
insight on good parenting, which is something that seems to be lacking in this
upside down day and age we live in.
By no means am I any kind of expert on parenting. I made my
mistakes certainly, but then so has every other parent. I take solace in that.
Show me a perfect parent and I’ll show you a liar.
Here’s part of the eulogy for my classmate’s mom, whose name
was Ruth:
“She was a reader. Libraries
were her Windsor Castle, her Taj Mahal.
“As a girl, she and her three
sisters and brother wore out their library cards. They strolled down the street
with their books open before them, and one time Ruth bumped into a telephone
pole.
“She taught her children to do
the same. Not bumping into things, but going to the library. She loved
libraries so much she worked in them for decades.
“She read books to all of us as
young children and made readers of all of us. And at the end, when her eyesight
failed, we read to her.
“She was a writer. She had
always wanted to get published. She subscribed to magazines aimed at freelance
writers and had some pieces make it into print. Her real gift, though, showed
itself in the hundreds, the thousands of letters she wrote to us while we were
away in the Army or in college, or in the Peace Corps.
“Or the ones she sent to her
siblings and friends.
“These letters were filled with
wisdom and meditations on living a meaningful life. They displayed her strong
religious faith…”
Reading. It’s important.
Get it?
My parents, too, were voracious
readers. My first task at the breakfast table was to read a story in the
Cleveland Plain Dealer that my father found to be important. But it was my
mother who nurtured the process.
When I was six, Mom gave me the
best book ever – “The Cat in the Hat,”
which was written, I would learn later, as an alternative to the boring
“Dick and Jane” books that were creating – get this – a reading crisis among
American schoolchildren.
“The Cat in the Hat,” authored
by Theodor Geisel (writing as Dr. Seuss), was
different from other books in that it showed a couple of latchkey kids under
the influence of a playful, chaotic visitor.
“What would you tell your
mother?” the book asks at the end.
The book, released in 1957, has
sold 12 million copies worldwide and still is among the top books recommended
for children.
I loved “The Cat in the Hat” and
read it so many times that the cover finally came loose and had to be taped
back on.
According to Wikipedia (phooey
on those who say you shouldn’t use the website as a credible source), “The Cat
in the Hat” is “1,629 words in length and uses a vocabulary of only 236
distinct words, of which 54 occur once and 33 twice. Only a single word – another
– has three syllables, while 14 have two and the remaining 221 are
monosyllabic. The longest words are something and playthings.”
It was an easy read.
Fast forward to 2013 and the back-to-school season, and
you’ll find many parents focused on making sure their kids have the latest in
fashion and technology.
For goodness’ sake, don’t forget to encourage them to read.
Buy the young ones books and more books. Read to the tots. Explain the
importance of reading to teenagers, many of whom readily admit they’d rather
play video games than read.
If you can’t read, you can’t write. And if you can do
neither, you are doomed to failure. Trust me on this, Mom and Dad. Teach your
kids to read.
Ruth would understand.
Read more from Dick
Farrell at TuscBargainHunter.com.
1 comment:
Dick:
Glad to see you're back. And I couldn't agree more with this post.
Heinz
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